Seven Hidden Values of Homework
Inhis book, “Ending the Homework Hassle,” Rosemond provides parents with soundmanagement strategies and outlines seven hidden values of homework.
1.Responsibility: Homework is aresponsibility that rightfully belongs to the student, not the parents. Kids need to assume ownership of that whichrightly belongs to them and learn to fulfill their obligations. When parents take over this responsibility bygetting too involved, they send the message to their youngster that they arenot capable of handling their own duties. This, in turn, leads to an increasing dependence on mom and dad to bailthem out. NEVER do any part of thehomework for your youngster. Rather,assist by helping them figure ways to accomplish assignments on their own.
2. Autonomy: To be self-governing, you need to stand onyour own two feet. Homework is the firsttime someone other than a parent has assigned tasks to a child on a consistentbasis. In that sense, homework breaksnew ground because kids are now accountable outside the family.
3. Perseverance: To confront challenge with determination, tostrive in spite of difficulties, youngsters need to complete what they set outto accomplish. There is no point to astudent doing homework if every time they become frustrated, parents absorb thefrustration and make it all better. Parents sometimes act as if one of their primary tasks is to protecttheir child from frustration. They maybelieve that standing aside and letting their child grapple with frustration,especially when the grappling could have been prevented, is neglectful andperhaps even abusive. This type ofintervention only delays important life lessons which will only become harderas the stakes rise with age.
4. TimeManagement: The ability to organizetime in an effective, productive manner without compromising quality is veryimportant in school and the future world of work.
5. Initiative: Initiative is like a muscle. If it’s exercised, it strengthens. When parents assume too much initiative fortheir child, the child will not develop strength to exercise it on their ownand will lack self-motivation and ability to define and pursue goals.
6.Self-Reliance: Managed properly,homework empowers, affirms, enlarges, fulfills, actualizes and enables astudent’s capacity for competence. Ithelps them to acquire trust in their own abilities which is the route ofself-confidence.
7.Resourcefulness: When kids developthe capacity to find, invent and adapt by their own creative means, they canface problems with the confidence needed to overcome the obstacle.