Perspectives 03-08-19

Tonight (Friday, March 8th) is the Night – We’ll see you at the auction!

  • Place: Harriet Island Pavilion in St. Paul
  • Time: Check-in begins at 6:30 – Silent Auction and Festivities begin at 7:00

Fun Fact: Did you know that this year’s caterer, Green Mill Catering, is giving 15% of the total bar sales back to Horace Mann? The auction committee would like to encourage the use of Uber/Lyft if you end up supporting the kids a little too much.


RSVP: Walk-Ins Welcome!!


Gratitude: Please be sure to thank Anne Pavlis for all of her hard work over the years. This year marks her final year as Auction Chair for the Horace Mann Silent Auction!


Sign Up for Spring Conferences Now Conferences take place 4:00-700pm on Wednesday, March 20 and Thursday, March 21 and 8:00am-3:00pm on Friday, March 22. Each family is provided one 20-minute time slot per child.


Go to to sign up online. Make sure to sign up for one conference for each child in your family. Families should check times and dates carefully to avoid overlaps for more than one child.


If you do not have Internet access, please schedule via phone at 651-293-8965.


How to Have a Great Conference Some years your child sails through school smoothly. Some years there are a few rough waters. Not every school year will be perfect. By dealing with situations calmly and by focusing on the solutions—not the problems—you can make the best of the year for you and your child. If you have a concern or issue, here are some tried-and-true ways to make dealing with problems at school much smoother.


Before the Conference

  1. Listen to your child - What are things he or she is doing well or some things in which they are struggling? Listen and make a note of it. Create a list of topics to discuss.
  2. Sit down with your child and ask your child what he or she thinks their teacher is going to tell you about them. Ask him or her about school. Ask what’s happening in class, at lunchtime, or in special classes such as art or physical education. How does your child talk about classroom activities? How does your child feel he or she is doing academically? How does your child talk about classmates?
  3. Assemble notes and papers. Think of the good things you've heard about the class. Write down questions you want to ask the teacher. Bring copies of any assignments you have questions about. Think ahead of time how to bring up concerns. Ask, “What can we do through the rest of the year?”

During the Conference

  1. Be on time. Schools tightly schedule parent-teacher conferences because there’s only so much time available and dozens of families to see. Show up at least a few minutes early.
  2. Know if your child should be at the conference or not. Think about childcare. One suggestion is to team up with another parent to take turns watching children.
  3. Don't be afraid. Many of us go back to our own school days when we have to meet with the teacher or principal. While educators are in positions of authority, they're also adults just like you who are interested in your child's education and eager to make the situation better. Don't worry that raising issues with them will "hurt" your child in the classroom. Leaving problems unresolved can be more problematic. Think positively.
  4. Take notes. Make note of what the teacher tells you about your child. Go through the issues with the teacher and listen to his or her perspective. Share the good things you've heard about the class. Teachers need to know that you see their good efforts as well. Bring up your concerns, making sure to explore strengths, weaknesses, and social skills.
  5. Try to keep emotions out of it. It is always difficult to hear that your child may not be the person you thought he or she was in the classroom. Keep your cool and bear in mind that the teacher is offering constructive criticism. Even if you or your child aren’t connecting with the teacher, it's important that you and your child behave respectfully. Children learn what they live and should observe you treating others with respect even in conflict.
  6. Work with your child's teacher to come up with a written list of how to resolve the situation. There should be items for you and your child to address and items for the teacher to address. Have the teacher make a copy of the list for both of you, and then schedule a follow-up appointment to see what progress has been made.

After the Conferences

  1. Talk to your child. Tell your child what you and the teacher discussed. Emphasize the positive things the teacher said. Remember that it’s important for your child to feel positive about learning, the teacher, and school.
  2. Follow up. If there were important issues that need to be dealt with, such as figuring out a homework issue or arranging counseling for your child, make sure to follow up in email with the teacher soon after the conference. Specify what steps will be taken, what your responsibilities and the school’s responsibilities will be, and what the timetable is for action.
  3. Follow through. Once you know what you can do at home to help your child succeed in school, make sure to actually do it.

What If Conferences Don’t Go Well?

  • Wait a few days to think about and reflect on the conference. If you still feel strongly, contact the teacher and schedule a follow-up conference.
  • Meet with the principal. If, after conferring again with your child’s teacher, you still feel that serious issues weren’t adequately addressed, set up a time to talk to the principal.

Adapted from Report to Parents, written to serve elementary and middle-level principals, may be reproduced by National Association of Elementary School Principals members without permission. Current year back issues are available to members at


Concerts Coming Soon Families are invited to the Grade 2-3 Music Concert on Wednesday, March 27. The show will be at 6:30pm in the Gym. The school show will be at 1:30pm in the gym with limited seating for guests.


Families are invited to the Grade K-1 Music Concert on Thursday, April 11. The show will be at 6:30pm in the Gym. The school show will be at 1:30pm in the gym with limited seating for guests.


Family Volunteer Service Night - THANK YOU! A big Thank You from our community partners for the meal bags, cleaning kits, care kits, grocery bags, and blankets. Horace Mann families were busy at last week’s family volunteer service night, but not too busy to say hi to some friendly service dogs and learn a little about blindness from Louis McGee.  Thank you for all who donated, cut fleece, ran errands, wrote letters (that’s you 2nd graders!), and organized projects.


Check your child’s backpack for a yearbook order form if you haven’t already seen it. Yearbooks are $15, and orders are due Wednesday, March 20th. You can order with the paper form or online at , using Yearbook ID: 9775119.


Ordering a yearbook? We need your help! This year we have a hopeful and ambitious goal of every Horace Mann student receiving a yearbook. If you are able, please consider adding a donation with your order (with your form or online) to help purchase a yearbook for your child’s classmate who might not otherwise be able to buy one. Any amount is helpful. If we exceed the goal to purchase yearbooks for all students, any excess donations will be set aside for this purpose for next year. Let’s try to make it possible for every Horace Mann student to enjoy the fun, memories, and sense of belonging on the day yearbooks arrive!


Want to Find Out What is Happening in Highland? The Highland District Council is excited to be hosting two events in the Shepard Davern area of Highland Park.   

  • Highland Together Ice Cream Social. Free cones at McDonald’s on Saturday, March 9 from 1:00-2:30 pm. Activities for kids.
  • Highland District Council Transportation Committee Meeting. Update for the West 7th Area at the Graham Place Senior Living (1745 Graham Ave) on Tuesday, March 12 6:30 -8:00 PM. Topics will include:
    • Metro Transit Route 54 and other updates
    • Hidden Falls/Crosby Farm Master Plan
    • Great River Passage Plan
    • Sibley Plaza
    • CP Spur
    • Riverview Corridor

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Important School Dates Bookmark our school calendar and check it frequently. You can go to and click calendar or use the direct link,


Friday, March 8

  • 6:30-10:30pm Silent Auction at Harriet Island Pavillion

Sunday, March 10

  • Daylight Savings Time begins- set clocks ahead 1 hour

Monday, March 11

  • 3:00-4:45pm EDL

Tuesday, March 12

  • 9:30-11:30am Traxler Class Field Trip to MIA
  • 1:30-2:30pm 5th Grade Field Trip to Highland Library
  • 3:00-4:10pm Winter Community Education Classes

Wednesday, March 13

  • 9:30-11:30am Tennyson & Rice Class Field Trip to MIA
  • 9:30am-12:00pm Witt Class Field Trip to MOI- Bookmaking
  • 3:00-4:45pm EDL

Thursday, March 14

  • 3:00-4:10pm Winter Community Education Classes
  • 5:30-8:00pm Parent Seminar: Understanding Our Children’s Emotions and Behavior

Friday, March 15

  • 9:30-11:30am Kacky & Kortuem Class Field Trip to MIA
  • 2:05pm All School Assembly in Gym

Monday, March 18

  • 3:00-4:45pm EDL

Tuesday, March 19

  • 9:30-11:30am Fridlund & Pickart Class Field Trip to MIA
  • 3:00-4:10pm Winter Community Education Classes

Wednesday, March 20

  • 9:30-11:30am Commers & Witt Class Field Trip to MIA
  • No EDL
  • Spring Conferences 4:00-7:00pm

Thursday, March 21

  • 9:30-11:30am Vincent & Harmon Class Field Trip to MIA
  • No Winter Community Education Classes
  • Spring Conferences 4:00-7:00pm

Friday, March 22

  • No School - Spring Conferences

Perspective submissions are due by 7:30am on Thursdays. Submissions after 7:30am will be included in the next edition.